A relationship is successful so far as the parties in it communicate with each other clearly about their wishes, objectives and general day-to-day feelings. There is no point in blaming one another for lack of understanding if you don’t tell them what you expect. Not only in a romantic relationship, in any sort of an affiliation talking to each other is important to make it successful. It may be that you are good at talking to people, but still not good at exchanging ideas with that significant other. This also is not an uncommon issue. Some people do find it hard to express what is in their hearts to the very person it should be done clearly. So what can you do to improve?

Start with small talk If you find it difficult to start talking at once about a matter at hand, start by having a small talk. You can start by talking about a TV show or even the weather; that type of topic is far from connecting emotionally, however it will lead to establishing a foundation of communication between you two. It will improve the “soul-ties” to make way for both of you to commence and conduct a deep discussion. If you want to slip in a small detail about what you like to do in spare time, what sort of engagement rings in Sydney you like etc. try to do it by starting from an unrelated topic. It is up to you to steer the discussion in the right way to prepare the setting. Things you consider “mundane” or “general” actually can lead to a better understanding so that it will eventually make you two comfortable with each other.

Listen to the other This is very important. If one feels that he or she is not being heard that can be a deal breaker. Most couples have this complaint about each other, meaning neither of the pair is prepared to listen to the other. It is not enough to just nod your head while listening. Make sure you understand and show that you do. You can ask a question, or smile and acknowledge something said by your partner. It is ok to disagree with what you are hearing, but ensure you respond with a clear reason and come up with an alternative for that too.

Talk about what? To establish the rapport and take the relationship to the next level you can talk about yourself, but don’t assume the other want to hear “all about you” all the time. Find a healthy balance between expressing all you have in mind and listening to what the other have to say as well. This has been proved difficult even for the strongest of couples as you tend to become comfortable with the partner and that one may show as he or she is listening to you but inwardly sighing as you always talk about this certain topic. If you continue to dominate the discussion your partner will ignore your company most of the time and things such as your favourite sapphire engagement rings will fall on deaf ears when what you most want is for them to hear it. Base of a healthy relationship is the understanding you have; it can be built only via perfect communication and sharing ideas of each other. You might come across the perfect person and you will feel this is the first and the last time such a suitable partner can be found. Would you want to lose them just because you can’t express yourself properly?